Day 83: Finding Flow

83BCB36C-F391-4382-B643-FFA92ABAA303Of course, I’m reading another book! This time it’s “The Sober Diaries” by Clare Pooley aka SoberMummy. In her entry titled, “mindfulness” she also writes about “flow.” It seems that there other ways to get one’s brain to just calm down besides drowning it in alcohol. Who knew? Well, flow is apparently similar to mindfulness (provides relaxation, calm, peace) but with the added bonus of getting stuff done!

So I went to the internet to find out more and found this (by Psychologist Deann Ware, PhD):

When you’re in a “flow state of mind”:
You lose track of time
You’re totally engrossed in what you’re doing
You’re not consciously thinking about yourself–in other words, you’re totally un-self conscious
You’re working toward a goal

A “flow activity”:
Is useful and challenging, which makes it intrinsically rewarding
Helps you progress toward a goal
Provides feedback to help gauge the effectiveness of your efforts

According to Dr. Ware, some possible flow activities include:

Physical activities such as sports, yoga, dance, and martial arts
Outdoor challenges such as hiking
Music–writing, playing, mixing
Art–painting, sculpture, mixed media, pottery

Do-It-Yourself projects, such as home improvement
Working with animals
Cooking and baking
Software development/coding
Needlework–sewing, knitting, cross stitch
Horseback riding
What you do for work 

I definitely experience flow at work when I lesson plan. It’s one of the reasons I love my job. Painting (houses not canvases) is also meditative for me. And writing can be – when I have something to say.

What else? Maybe Yoga once it gets a little easier. Right now it still gives me a little anxiety. Running if it didn’t hurt so damn bad.

What do you do to find your flow?


Today I feel grateful for…

1. my job.

2. my trim-painting project waiting patiently for me to get back to.

3. this blog as a creative outlet.

Happy Sober Monday,



8 thoughts on “Day 83: Finding Flow

  1. I’m reading her book too – just read this chapter last night! I find my best “flow” hiking or walking. A good DIY project always works too – painting, sanding or just deep cleaning a small area. Have a great day!

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  2. I love Sober Mommy too! As for flow, my top personal pick is sudoku – it’s a potent antidote for any stress or anxiety for me. The DIY stuff too 👍🏻 because I think incorporating physical movement is even more potent. I love the term flow though – it’s a keeper! Thanks for your inspirational daily posts 😊

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  3. I never ever expected my mind to calm down. I have been a ball of anxiety my entire life. I think I hid it well, but it caused me to cut, starve, shop and drink at varying times.
    My mind was loud, angry and constant.
    Yoga has changed it all. Most of the time I am at ease. I can spend long period in stillness. I like being alone. All foreign concepts for me.
    The second Yoga sutra yogas citta vriti nirohdha. Yoga is the stilling of the fluctuations of the mind. When I heard that I knew this was my path. I had just forgotten.
    It is possible.

    I also take medication. It got me out of the depths of some severe depression and too, the sharp edge off my anxiety so that all the work I do could actually help.

    Other people find this painting, knitting, running. I like Yoga because I have become friends with my body while stilling my mind.

    I never, ever expected Yoga to be for me. I have always been much more hard core. In hindsight, that was all part of my attempt at perfection as a shield of protection. It was one of the basic issues I had been trying to hide.

    You are doing great. You will find your thing! So many options.



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    1. Thank you, as always, so wise. ☺️ My own brain is not always angry, but it worries and rehashes and creates a lot of tension. Yoga has been helpful so far. By the way, I saw your name in Sober Mummy’s book!


  4. I just finished The Sober Diaries on audible and loved it. Have you read The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober? That’s another fab book. To find my flow I read, do yoga, cuddle my cat, play music (although I am a musician so this doesn’t always feel relaxing!)

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