Day 166: questions

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Questions I’m pondering/trying to articulate the answers to:

Why is quitting smoking not “recovery” from addiction?

Is it possible to recover from addiction, be “recovered” and move on?

Is protecting one’s sobriety mainly necessary because alcohol is so ingrained in our society?

Is this why getting and staying sober is such a wholistic experience? Aren’t there people who just give up alcohol and move on? I know a couple of people who appear to have done this.

I think sometimes there is a misconception that we are constantly craving alcohol, so thus require constant support. (The husband seems to think something along these lines.)

Still pondering.

Happy Sober Sunday,

jen

 

4 thoughts on “Day 166: questions

  1. Alcohol is but a symptom. It’s the solution to our problems, until it becomes the problem. It’s “a” bottom. Whatever that may me, it’s outside for the world to see. Loss of job, loss of health, friends, family, shelter etc. Then there’s “the bottom” in sobriety. It’s inside, no one can see. It’s hitting the bottom of despair, burying it, then moving forward toward wholeness. That takes years in recovery. It’s a journey that you’re already on. It’s an amazing experience/journey.

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  2. omg Jen – I literally have exactly the same questions buzzing around in my head all the time too! I swear we are brain twins or something 😆😆 xx

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  3. A powerful post with such insightful questions to ponder.
    I don’t resonate with some of the terms often used: “alcoholic” and “recovery” for example don’t ring so true for me. They both feel limiting, like putting my experience in a box or something.
    I think, after the initial hard bit of quitting, we do move on with it, not in a constant state of craving and not needing constant support not to drink. Yet, I do wonder about the research suggesting that after awhile of using/misusing alcohol our brains function differently than they did before, so picking up again just starts the addictive response again. Easy to remedy that for sure, we simply don’t pick up. 🙂 And connecting with others with similar experiences is positive and uplifting.
    I think we feel the need to care for our sobriety precisely because our culture “protects” the extent to which alcohol is ingrained in our society and, unlike nicotine, it hasn’t become widely accepted or normalized that alcohol is an addictive drug better left on the shelf.
    I never got hooked on nicotine, but I know from experiments in my youth that cigarettes never gave me the escape, never took me to that far away, feel-so-good place that alcohol did. Since I did the escape with alcohol until it became a dysfunctional pattern of behavior, a way of protecting/escaping the hard stuff, I think now most of what I’m experiencing has less to do with life without alcohol and more to do with self discovery, introspection, and learning some new tools for being in my life in a more healthy way.

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  4. I never wanted to be in recovery. I just wanted to not drink.

    Until I stopped and then i realized drinking was part of my coping with anxiety and depression and that to live a full life I would need to recover from perfectionism, people pleasing and approval seeking. I would need to find me.

    And so I started looking for options, and the sober community was full of other seekers. And they understood me! How awesome.

    I have no desire to drink. I do not feel deprived or like I’m missing out in any way. In fact, part of me has sympathy for drinker.

    BUT I do need to be aware of my mental health and to remain vigilant in self care, compassion and mindfulness if I want to live with contentment and ease. Because hard things happen and I see that slipping into and old coping mechanism, like drinking, could seem like and easy way to escape.

    I embrace recovery as a path to living.

    Anne

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